Obsetional relationships nurtured by stalking

Dear Peach’z,

Let's be honest ! Since the emergence of social medias such as Instagram, Facebook or Twitter, we have all become budding stalkers. Stalking has become an integral part of our lives. Let's face it, who among us has never stalked his ex? His crush? Mmmh if you say otherwise, I think you're all little liars ;)

The temptation is so great that we can’t resist it. In one click we can know everything about the person who makes our fragile little heart beats. This obsession fed by social networks can drive us crazy and it becomes an habit. One might wonder if social media has changed our view of the couple. I think they have, because as I said before, our obsession with knowing what's going on in other people's lives can lead to a lot of paranoia ! And guess what ? I confess that I've been touched by this strange disease…

It can of course happen to go and see the profiles of our loved ones with no ulterior motive ! But this may be the problem because we are not really confronted with the person, and what we deduce from their profiles may be completely wrong ! In reality, what we want to know when we stalk our beloved, our ex, or our crush, is to know their possible secrets, what he or she is hiding from us. We are obsessed with what we don't know. We are looking for a way to discover something that may not exist. And this can lead to a lack of trust in the desired person, and eventually create problems that would not have happened without social media.

We have all noticed that social medias have completely changed our perception of the "couple" as such. The true and beautiful love relationship, the one that aims to love, to trust the other, to learn with the other in order to move forward together in this life full of futile problems has been overturned by social networks. Today we have so many ulterior motives, which did not exist before, such as wanting to make our lover envious by posting photos with other boys or girls, to show off only so that the other will comment on your publication. Stalk makes us lose confidence in ourselves and in our couple, it makes us doubt everything, as if it was controlling us. If only we could get out of this vicious circle that directs our love life.

Finally, stalking on social networks has indeed become something usual, for us, the young generation. But be reasonable dear Peach'z, don't be too greedy ! Because it could be detrimental to you…

By Victoria Matline