What's on my dm's ?

Dear peach'z,

There is a subject that is close to my heart that I would like to share with you,

Today, many people use social media to create relationships that are either friendships or romantic relationships. Indeed there are a lot of social media created for this kind of use, for exemple tinder that I think is known by the most of you.

A lot of social media have seen their use evolve. That’s the case for instagram, known for sharing pictures and vidéos that we can comment. But who could have ever imagined that this social media would make it easier to flirt and create relationships ?

With the appartion of the dm’s , it’s become very easy to use techniques of flirting and chat with people. But many people will only base themselves on the physic of the person highlighted on his fit.

Is it just physical appearance or is there more ?

This messages can quickly become annoying and the people that sends these messages can quickly be considered as forcing or trying too hard. In fact an image has been created in the world of young people these kind of people that flirt all the time.

It almost became a competition. Who will have the most dm’s. For the young people, dm’s are always présent in a conversation and that is why they can often be fights in a group of friends for example. We can often hear « why do you have xxx in your dm’s » , « stop answering to his stories » , « they are so annoying to dm me 15 times a day ». Where I want to go with this is that these dm’s can discredit love or flirting.

The sentence “one lost ten found” takes all its sense here. It is true that it’s much easier to start talking to someone over messages behind a screen then like our parents use to do back in the day where you had to be great right at the beginning. We always feel more comfortable when we don’t have to turn red in front of the person and the conversation can be less embarrassing.

As far as romantic relationships are concerned, the question is whether direct messages bring partners closer together or, on the contrary, harm their relationship. Even if a relationship is based on trust, the dm’s have greatly increased the arguments in couples, quiproquos or even jealousy.

But it also made it possible for some to find their soul mate. Indeed, many young people have managed to let go and “declare their flame" across Instagram.

So to draw a conclusion, the dms have certainly become a facility to flirt but it should not be abused. This can be dangerous as well as beneficial.

As a young woman, I will give you advice, do not abuse it, stand out and choose your words well. If you are in a relationship, be sure not to hide anything from your partner and that no conversation is confusing.

By Juliette Dumont